In our lives, we usually encounter challenges that make us a better person.  It makes us wiser and stronger because we learn from it.  However, there are times that we fail to see beyond the challenges and decide to end our misery by ending our lives.  But then, just as the saying goes, "Life is what we make it."  We make all the choices that we have in our lives and we should be responsible in the consequences of our actions and do not blame others for the wrong decisions that we make.

Oftentimes, we seek advice from our closest family and friends whenever we feel confused and we need to make a life-changing decision in our lives.  However, there are cases that when we talk to a lot of people, we get more and more confused as they give different views about our concern.  There are also cases that they get upset at you when you do not heed on to their advice and it causes rift between you and a family member/friend.

In this case, we often think of consulting someone whom we don't know personally because this person will not judge us and will see our concerns objectively.  

Here are the reasons why consulting a counselor is better than talking with our closest family and friends when we are experiencing hardships and need to make big decisions in our lives:

1.  Counselors process our feelings.  Counselors do not tolerate our negative feelings; rather he/she helps us process it by asking questions as to why we feel that way and what possible solution we can do to make us feel better.

2.  Counselors will help us realize the situation.  Counselors are professionals who will help us see the problems as something that will help us in our lives and not something that will pull us down.  Counselors will help us see the clear picture that the problem is not all about us but it will also affect the people around you.  Counselors will help us realize that there is always hope, that we can overcome whatever situation that we have right now, that we are bigger than the problem.

3.  Counselors are ready to listen.  Friends and family may sometimes be preoccupied with their own activities, thus, finding time to be with you is less of a priority.  Friends and family may not sometimes see the signs that we need help and sees our problem as something petty and does not need immediate attention.  I have discovered this website where you can even have a live chat with a counselor.  They cater to people all over the world.  You may read about BetterHelp HERE.  

4.  Counselors will take your concern with utmost confidentiality.  Counselors do not discuss your concern to other people, to also ask from his/her co-counselors what possible solutions he/she can offer to you.  Counselors   

To be honest, I also consulted a counselor in the past because friends and family no longer understand what I am feeling.  I felt better after talking with a counselor and I was able to see myself clearly and move on with my life.  

There is nothing wrong if we consult a counselor.  Never be afraid to talk to one.